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Parenting is one of life's most rewarding and challenging
responsibilities. As parents make clear, however, helping
young people navigate the passage to adulthood can be
daunting. The good news is that research makes clear-and
teens themselves underscore-that parents can do much
to help. Here are five things that parents should know
about how they can help their children avoid too-early
pregnancy and parenthood.
1. You're more influential than you think. Teens
continue to say that parents most influence their decisions
about sex. Not the media. Not their friends. Not their
boyfriend or girlfriend. Parents, however, mistakenly
believe that peers and popular culture matter more.
As teens frequently say, "we really care what you
think, even if we don't always act like it."
2. Forget "the talk." Start talking
with your kids about sex, love, and relationships when
they're young and keep the conversation going as your
kids get older. Realize also that simply talking with
your teens about the risks of early sex without being
more deeply involved in their lives and close to them
is unlikely to decrease the risk of teen pregnancy.
3. Teens need you just as much as toddlers.
Teens are not independent operators. New research on
adolescent development makes clear that teens need guidance,
supervision, and love just as much as toddlers do. Don't
underestimate the great need that children of all ages
feel for their parents' guidance, approval, and support.
4. Your teens are watching. Behave honorably
in your own adult relationships. Children and teenagers
observe what you do very carefully-action speaks louder
than words.
5. Relationships matter. Teens who are close
to their parents and feel supported by them are more
likely to wait until they are older to begin having
sex, have fewer sexual partners, and use contraception
more consistently when they do become sexually active.
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